For women who do not want to abort and can’t make parenting work, adoption is an alternative. Only you can decide which option is best for you, and if adoption is on your mind and heart, it’s worth exploring.
Modern Adoption: What Does It Look Like?
Adoption looks much different today than it did in the past. Most adoptions in the US are open adoptions, meaning the birth mother communicates directly with the adoptive family and child, maintaining some type of relationship. This allows women to remain part of their child’s life even though they are not the legal parent.
Birth mothers state specific preferences in their adoption plans. They choose the adoptive family based on many factors, including the kind of life they want for their child. They can also set certain conditions or make specific requests. While the follow-through on some demands is based on trust, many adoptive couples want to maintain a healthy relationship with the birth mother to enhance their child’s life.
What to Know About Adoption
If you’re thinking about adoption, here are the facts to know.
There Are Three Types of Adoption Plans
The three adoption plans include:
- Open Adoption – The birth mother has direct contact with the adoptive family and child. This is not co-parenting, though.
- Semi-Open Adoption – The birth mother speaks to the adoptive family through a third party or intermediary, such as an adoption agency or lawyer.
- Closed Adoption – The birth mother’s identity is not disclosed, and there is no contact. The adoption records are sealed to keep complete privacy.
Birth Mothers Pay Nothing
Reputable adoption agencies should not charge birth mothers anything. In fact, all legal fees and medical expenses not covered by insurance are covered by the adoptive family. The adoptive family may also cover other reasonable expenses. This means birth mothers can focus on pregnancy, birth, and moving forward, without worrying about birth or adoption-related costs.
You Can Change Your Mind
Adoption can be a complex choice emotionally. You must be comfortable and confident with going through pregnancy, transferring your parental rights, and allowing another adoptive couple to raise the child. Know that you can change your mind until the adoption papers are signed after birth. It’s important to be sure because this will impact your life and future.
Ask Us About Adoption
The feelings and circumstances surrounding an unexpected pregnancy are complicated, and we’re here to help you sort through everything. At Life Choices, we’ll provide information on every option, including adoption.
If you’re interested in this option, we can refer you to reputable adoption agencies that can share more specific details with you. Talking with an adoption agency does not involve any commitment. Only you can make this decision.